Consider: "He chose us in him before the foundation of the world that we should be holy and blameless before him..."
He CHOSE us. I love that God CHOSE me. He didn't just put up with me he chose me. When I was in elementary school I wasn't very athletic. Sure I played softball and soccer for rec sports for a short time (except that I never made it to 1st base and use to take a seat in the middle of the soccer field to pick dandilions while the other kids swarmed around the soccer ball like bees would a beehive). I was just more of an artsy kid... I wanted to pick flowers and draw stick figures in my journal and dance and sing. Well having a more "artsy" side in gym class in elementary school didn't really pay off. Kickball was not my favorite game. So there I would stand on the softball field the last of three waiting to make it on a team. I wouldn't have admitted I was a worthy player. I wasn't going to score a homerun and my team would be lucky if I made it to 1st base. Eventually I would hear... "Ok I'll take Kristin." And off I would go to join a team feeling discouraged, unwanted, insignificant. My teammates would have to "put up with me" as I would miss the ball and kick a foul. They didn't have a choice I had to be picked.
God doesn't play favorites. Isn't that cool? He doesn't just deal with us either. He didn't say (sigh) "Okay I'll pick Kristin fulfill my purposes and be in heaven with me since she's the best out of the last 3. At least she'll enjoy my creation of daisies in the outfield when she gets bored." NO... that's not what God said. He said "I chose Kristin." Before the foundation of the world God chose us to be adopted as his sons to be holy, forgiven, & redeemed. In love he predestined us. It's one thing to feel loved b/c God is loving and you know he created you. It's another thing to feel loved b/c he chose you. We choose people for a reason. In a human sense we choose to love people based on their personalities, what they look like, sometimes even the things they have. I don't believe God chooses the way we do...that's why it's so beautiful to know He chose us.